– on a Biker
Date or Harley could start with a biker kiss
a secret desire to suck oranges, dress up as the
opposite gender or try out a little leather?
Welcome to the frivolous world of fetishes.
Who has them, why,
and what do they do?
days, we’re all aware that there are people out
there who like to dress up in leather or rubber,
or who like to do ‘strange things’ to each other,
or who have what’s called a ‘fetish’. But what is
a fetish and what causes this kind of sexual
behaviour? Is it really as bizarre as it seems?
medical and psychological terms a ‘fetish’ is an
object, or part of the body, that becomes the
focus of sexual desire, without which the
fetishist cannot achieve orgasm. However it is
more often used to mean any general sexual
turn-on. For example, some people will quite
happily admit to having a “leather
fetish” but they don’t mean that they must
ALWAYS incorporate leather into their sex sessions
and can’t function without it, just that they
sometimes like to use it for an extra kick.
What turns you on?
quick trawl around the internet will introduce you
to a host of fetishes you didn’t know existed.
Pretty much anything can be placed in a sexual
context, from the more usual objects and materials
such as feet, lingerie, high heel shoes, rubber
and leather to the more bizarre like balloons,
cigarettes and bodily fluids.
fetishes are more socially acceptable than others,
but on the net there is no moral code controlling
what can or cannot be discussed, so many hard-core
fetishists use it as a way to discuss their own
particular passion and to meet others who share
it. A lot of the sites may be shocking, but there
are few (if any) fetishes that are truly original
and which do not have many practitioners, around
are these people? Fetishists come from all areas
of society. They are gay, straight or bisexual,
black or white, male or female – increasingly so,
as women discuss their sexuality more openly – and
they come from many different backgrounds, classes
or professions. While what they do is often
‘extreme’, they are usually consenting adults, who
are having these sexual experiences through
choice, in a safe environment where rules and
boundaries are set and respected.
arise when someone with a fetish cannot control
their urges or tries to force their partner to do
something against their will. But these same
problems exist amongst those who consider
themselves to have a ‘normal’ sex life, and this
has more to do with mental state than sexuality.
any normal sexuality, fetishes are caused by a
variety of complex genetic, environmental
(especially during childhood and puberty) and
social factors. In the same way that some
‘straight’ people do not enjoy oral or penetrative
sex, so true fetishists have no control over their
sexual preferences – they can’t say why they get
turned-on by the sight of a manicured foot, they
people find they can easily incorporate their
fetish into an otherwise normal relationship. As
with ‘straight’ partners who have different tastes
and turn-ons, the important factors for a
successful sexual relationship are respect, trust